Sex, and Lots of It, in Marriage


Do I have your attention with that title?

“Oh, yeah!” many spouses roar.

“Oh, no,..,” others’ voices trail off ….

One wife journaled, “I feel like a whore after being with my husband.”

This is our human default showing. We demonstrate the passing pleasures of sin, not God’s enduring pleasures.

By default the passing pleasures are pure chemistry, lust and disgust, and animal like.

In contrast, God’s enduring pleasures are His continuous, joyous, satisfying Life.

Passing pleasures are demanding, grabbing and loveless, right now hunger for the body.

But His enduring pleasures, according to His Word, are love-filled requests in hunger for your mate’s spirit, soul, and body.

In that order.

You love who your spouse is in spirit.

Their identity. Your spouse is at core a spirit in His image.

“For what man knows the things of a man, except the spirit of man which is in him?” 1 Corinthians 2:11a

Your spouse’s spirit is whom you fell in love with.


Your spouse’s uniqueness is just for you.

Your spouse’s soul is that spirit clothed with mind, will, and emotions.

And finally, your spouse’s spirit and soul are clothed in a glorious body.

God made you to desire your spouse to belong to you, and designed you to hunger for them.

And only them.


Sex is God’s purist indicator of knowing Him.

Of course, the most intimacy in marriage is found in love-making.

And amazingly, marriage is actually a picture of our relationship with God.

Though sermons on marriage invariable quote from the last half of Ephesians 5, Paul says, “But I’m not actually talking about human marriage.”

“I beg your pardon, Paul, but that’s all you’ve been talking about since verse 22.”

“No, I”m talking about you and God.”


“(31) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (32) This is a great mystery, but I am really speaking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31-32

This is as if God was saying through Paul, “Marriage is first about you and Me, first individually and also corporately as the church.”

If we never marry, we believers still have been ‘married/joined’ to Him.

Human marriage is a subset of our individual marriages to Him, and can be no better. Human marriage is reflective; if our relationships with our spouses aren’t good, then neither are our relationships with Him.


Marriage is not about rights, disinterest (an I don’t want you rejection of your spouse), deprivations, and issues of power and control.

In Him, you lost your rights to go your own way, and act as badly as you want, punishing your mate for offenses, both real and imagined.

This is not His way.

If you want to see His life move you out of your death, follow Him and His way.

Request and give.

If there are offenses, then forgive. Join Him in His forgiving them (like He readily forgives you), then come back together.


And when you’re with your spouse, look at them, adore them. Kiss the portals of their existence, their eyes. But most importantly, talk to God first about them. Tell Him how much you love them, how thankful you are that they said yes to  you and belong to you. Thank Him for blessing you with such a heavenly gift as your spouse. Be creative with what you tell your loved one, for He, The Creator, is in you, loving both you and your spouse. Then watch Him open the storehouses of His heavenly love in your marriage.

Spirit, soul and body filled sexual intimacy yields deeply bonded relationship that mirrors your spiritual intimacy with The Father, Son, and Spirit. The more you experience with your spouse, the closer you’re experiencing Them. There is nothing better in life than intimately knowing Him, and knowing His great love in and with your spouse.

Loving is truly an art of His Spirit and yours.


“(1) Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. (2) Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. (3) Let the husband kindly render to his wife his marital responsibility: and likewise also the wife to her husband. (4) The wife does not have power over her own body, but the husband does: and likewise also the husband does not have power over his own body, but the wife does. (5) Do not deprive one another, except you agree for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan does not tempt you for your inability to control yourselves. (6) But I appeal to your willingness, that you not feel forced by a commandment.” 1 Corinthians 7:1-6

Request and give.


See Also: Sex



Politics and God: What About Trump?


Why broach the topic of the President of the United States (POTUS), Donald J Trump?

Because there’s little to no truth on most of the airwaves.

Truth is all that matters ultimately, and Jesus came to bear witness of The Truth – He [Jesus] is God’s Man, Messiah, Deliverer, Sacrifice, God’s all.

What He says matters.

Little to nothing that the rest of us say matters at all.

So, in this space the POTUS Donald J Trump will be given a fair hearing.


Only God knows what happened, how he became President.

It was a political impossibility.

The system was rigged against Him.

And yet, it happened.

And I’m going to posit that it only happened because God intervened.

He apparently drove voters to the polls, citizens who had assumed that Hillary as POTUS was a done deal and were going to stay at home, instead of getting out to vote.

Somehow, they came out of the woodwork everywhere they were needed, which tipped the election to Trump.

It was simply unbelievable to watch the progression on election night.


We deserved Hillary Clinton to be our President, for she advocates the ways of the world that only lead to death.

Life and peace are experienced in Christ alone.

“For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.” Romans 8:6

Bet your life on man and die, or entrust your life to Christ, find abundant life, and truly, joyously live.


So, in my opinion, we got another chance with Hillary’s defeat and Trump’s victory, though this country has been caving to efforts to remove God for over 50 years.

Picking sides am I?

If your eyes and ears have been open over the decades, you should realize that history matters.

The Presidential coat-tails of her husband Bill was her way to the top. Her political version was on steroids, the game-playing politics, manipulation, endless Bill and Hillary scandals, ever evolving standards, the ends justify the means, Hillary’s lack of ability to relate to anyone in any real way makes an awake person blanch. Congenital liar was one of her labels, so such epithets cast wide and far in politics are nothing new.


Am I partisan?

Actually, no.

I’m just tired of all the PC BS.

My Midwest farming family was staunchly Democrat.

And people tend to vote how their parents did, until they come to Christ and know Truth in Him.

“So you’re saying being Christian means you’re a Republican?”

There is some truth in this based on what the two party platforms stand for.

But this post is mostly speaking against mindless voting based on long-dead-and-gone-ancestors.

The dead have been taken off the rolls, don’t let their vote continue.

Can you hear?



The Democrat Party of my father’s time is not the Democrat Party of today.

God has been removed from the 2016 Party Platform. Oh, the phrase God-given-potential is stated 3 times, but isn’t that only cheating? Isn’t it a way of using the name God without meaning God? It’s a colloquial phrase these days. The Democrat platform excludes God – He’s just not there. [2016 Republican Platform]

And this is a far cry from what the Founders said about Him.

Ultimately, this equates to the Democrat Party declaring itself godless and ungodly.

And, as Christians, we can forecast what happens when people attempt to remove God from life. [He laughs at such chutzpah.]

You get Romans 1:16-32 of the New Testament of the Bible. [Paul writes based on Christ’s revelation to him, being led by The Spirit of God.]

These things written, in the Romans 1 excerpt, are what people do when they reject God.

The Democrat Party has rejected God.

Add killing babies to the list (look at a sonogram), and you get the godless idea. [And why not rather approach this with both the mother’s and the baby’s interests at heart, like God does? He loves the life He made. He loves babies.]


The Democrat Party decided to replace God with themselves, and define their own standards, apart from Him. [The only criterion for policies should be to promote and protect life.]

And when people decide to do this, they’re never content to ruin their lives alone.

They want to drag you down too.

You may wish such people would just go away, but they won’t until they’ve turned every standard of life upside down.

Truth becomes lies.

Things that are bad for you are now good for you and are to be promoted widely.

If you die from such things, that’s unfortunate.


When it comes to the President, Trump’s no Messiah, no perfect person, not even a person to emulate.

But I don’t expect any President to be a Messiah.

The only people looking for a messianic president are those who don’t know God.

Everyone is seeking a Deliverer, a Champion.

But the only One Who is trustworthy is Jesus Christ.

Trump is no Jesus.

But neither are you or I.

We each look into His mirror and see what and who we are.

The picture is not pretty.

We need The Savior.


People, no matter how far away from God, are actually looking for Him, but don’t know it.

Only Christ is The Answer to their lives’ meaning and the love they’re so desperately seeking.


Okay, so what about Trump?

Have to speculate, for only God ultimately knows.

In the Republican Primary, Trump knew he had no chance to win and become the Republican nominee.

So he swung for the fence, saying what he thought, what he wanted to.

What did it matter?

Call it like he saw it, for he wasn’t going to win anyway.

He called BS where he saw it.

Nobody owned him, so he could do it.

Straight talk.

Sometimes crude.

Much of it outrageous.

My goodness.

He won the primary.

Amazing … act of God. [If you know your Bible, you’ll recognize that God commonly uses the ungodly to discipline His people.]


Now that he’s the nominee, what does he do?

Can Trump change his stripes?

Not a chance.

It’s rigged, so continue to say what he wants.

Talk to the problems as he saw them.

Both parties over the years have sold out America, both having political middles that were essentially indistinguishable.

Bankrupt America – and we are bankrupt physically (you don’t even want to know the trillions – we’ll never get out of debt), morally, and spiritually.


Trump is a get things done President.

If you don’t want anything to get done, you’ll hate him.

If you don’t like what he says, you’ll hate him.

If you’re on the other side of the political divide, you’ll hate him.

If you believe he’s guilty of collusion or of obstruction of justice or of … or of … or of anything you want to hate him for, you’ll hate him.

You’re a hater, a BMC-er.


Hate him because he’s rich.

The rich have opportunities that I will never have ….

What would I have done, if I’d had his opportunities?

Probably more bad things than he’s ever accused of.

Am I envious of him?

Am I jealous of him?

Maybe those are some of the reasons he’s hated.

He has.

I don’t.


He tweets to get a hearing.

The main stream media (MSM) won’t cover his accomplishments or his point of view, so he bypasses them.

Yeah, I know, sometimes I wince too, but he makes people take notice of his point.

His information gets out.

You read it.


Politicians generally sound good, but is there substance in their words?

This was one of Trump’s criticisms of Hillary in the debates.

To paraphrase, “She talks a lot, but what has she done?”

Nothing that promoted and protected life.


So in closing, remember Jesus’ parable:

“(28) But what do you think? A certain man had two sons; and he came to the first, and said, Son, go work today in my vineyard. (29) He answered and said, I will not, but afterward he repented, and went. (30) And he came to the second, and said likewise. And he answered and said, I go, sir: and did not go. (31) Which of the two did the will of his father? They said to him, The first.” Matthew 21:28-31a

President Trump is like the son who first rejected, but then did what was asked/needed.

It’s not the talkers who should get our attention – it’s the doers.

You’ll know them by their fruit.

You’ll know them by what they do.

“(15) Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. (16) You shall know them by their fruit. Do men gather grapes from thorns, or figs from thistles? (17) Even so every good tree produces good fruit, but a corrupt tree produces evil fruit. (18) A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. (19) Every tree that does not bring forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. (20) Therefore you shall know them by their fruits” Matthew 7:15-20





This website’s primary focus is on freedom from sin in Christ.

The Secret for everything in our lives is the indwelling Godhead.

The Father, Son, and Spirit are certainly free, and in and with Them, you can also walk with Them.

“He who says he remains in Him walks like He did.” 1 John 2:6


The indwelling Godhead is God’s primary revelation to Paul.

Their indwelling is the basis for everything you face, for They change everything They touch.

They’ve touched you.


So, how do They relate to stressed you?


Imagine along with the Biblical authors.

He hides you in the cleft of the rock.

You run into Him, your strong Tower.

“Christ in you, The Hope of glory.” Colossians 1:27


So, further imagine The Father embracing you, for He is at every moment providing you what you want and need.

[Know that a personal relationship with God is an oxymoron, if you have no sense of His Presence in your life.]

He doesn’t skimp.

He lavishes, overflows.

“He has super-abounded toward us in all wisdom and prudence;” Ephesians 1:8


He doesn’t quench a smoking reed (like throwing you an anvil when you’re drowning), nor will He ever tell you to just get over it.


Wrap your arms around yourself, as Him placing His around you in a bear-hug.

Just like the baby mentioned in a previous post, He’s always expressing His love for you.

Pat yourself on your back (imagine Him doing it) and hear Him in your spirit (not voices), “I’ve got you, <your name>, My dear one, it’s going to be okay. We’re going to get through this together.”

Being together [Emmanuel, God with us] is you want and need to hear and know!

Hold His embrace until He’s calmed and comforted you, for your heavenly, perfect Father certainly knows how to do this for you.


Then He hands you to Jesus for another great hug.

Jesus lets you know He’s also in you like His Father, and you are to share His patience, joy, love, self-control, all His ‘fruit.’


In the new creation, with The Father, Son, and Spirit in and with you, you can face anything.

They aren’t stressed, and when you share Their Life, you won’t be either.



Time For New Wine-skins: Missing the Congregation


It’s time for the church paradigm to go.

Far away.


It’s worthless.

It’s less than Him.

He’s short-changed from week to week by pastors who might be in some target’s outer rings a couple times a year.

Most are not even hitting paper.

And if they’re not in the bulls-eye, they’re certainly bull something.

Most pastors mercifully close with congregants ruminating, “So what?”

Or the sheep secretly heart bleat, “Baaaaaad.”


And what’s a pastor to do, anyway?

He’s got to be inspiring, entertaining, all-knowing, hitting a home-run every service.

Rarely is this known among pastors.

Certainly it is not experienced by the vast majority.

Virtually all are not so interesting as to command attention for 30-45 minutes every week and twice or more on Sundays.

But it is kind of stimulating to confide to strangers that x number of people gather to listen to you weekly.

You must be something.


And really, why should we expect command performances?


His voice was lilty, eyes almost hypnotic.

The gaze of a serpent?

Deep, soothing, ringing bass voice.

A meandering message, heavy on his personal interpretation of what the Scripture didn’t say.

And the 30 year old young married lady quoting from The Book of Jubilees.

Saaaayyy wwwwhhhhaaattttt?


Where was Christ in their messages?

AWOL by their design.

Their design doesn’t need Him.


Congregations, nobody needs pastors and teachers who leave Him out.

Apart from Him, there’s no reason to meet.


You will know it if He makes Himself known!

Everything is different.

It may be a torrent.

But it’s raw Life in The Son.

Your heart is racing.

Your mind is on fire.

Hope is bursting out of your chest.

He’s changing you.


Pseudo-pastoral-passion is humiliated in The Presence of The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit.


The Father, Son, and Spirit live in you.

They are speaking.

Are the pastors listening to Them?

After all, their job is to pass on what They’re saying.

The pastors and teachers must decrease and He must increase.

If He’s not increasing, stop speaking pastors until you know Him, and know what He’s saying to you for the congregation.


Find someone who can teach you Their Presence in and with you.

Do away with the old wine-skin, ragged and torn preaching format.

It doesn’t work 99.99% of the time.

Let Him show you the best way for you to teach relationship with Him to others.

Know Him, and know Who you’re talking about.



What Does He Want From You?


What does God want from you?

He wants your heart.

Now, wait a minute, if He has my heart, what might He do with it?

For the one who has your heart owns you, whether God or man.

You’re no longer your own – God and spouses own you.

“(19) What? Do you not know that your body is the temple of The Holy Spirit Who is in you, Whom you have from God, and you are not your own? (20) For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

“(3) Let the husband kindly render to his wife his marital responsibility: and likewise also the wife to her husband. (4) The wife does not have power over her own body, but the husband does: and likewise also the husband does not have power over his own body, but the wife does.” 1 Corinthians 7:3-4


The one who has your heart has your love.

The one who has your heart can punish you, reject you, betray you.

To be owned this way can be fearful … unless the one who owns you can be trusted.


God can be trusted.

He is always good.

He is completely trustworthy with everything in your heart.

He wants only the very best for you.

Don’t settle for less, when your Father is the God Who made it all and calls into being that which is not.

“But as it is written, Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God has prepared for them who love Him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9

How big are God’s desires, for He gives them to you? “Delight yourself also in The LORD: and He shall give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4


And He is especially mindful of you when you’re hurting.

“The LORD is near to them who are broken-hearted; and saves such as are of a contrite spirit.” Psalm 34:18

Hezekiah is one example of God hearing such a one.

“(1) In those days Hezekiah was sick to death. And the prophet Isaiah the son of Amoz came to him, and said to him, Thus says The LORD, Set your house in order; for you shall die, and not live.     (4) And it came to pass, before Isaiah had gone out into the middle court, that the word of The LORD came to him, saying, (5) Turn again, and tell Hezekiah the captain of My people, Thus says The LORD, the God of David your father, I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears: behold, I will heal you: on the 3rd day you shall go up to the House of The LORD.” 2 Kings 20:1, 4-5


Take heart, be of good courage.

The One Who loves you even through a cross bears you up.

He never grows weary.

And when you do, remember …

“My flesh and my heart fail, but God is the strength of my heart, and my portion forever.” Psalm 73:26





Declare War on ‘Positional Truth’


Why declare war on pastors and teachers using the phrase positional truth when referring to a supposed freedom in Christ, but not an actual, real one.

Because they’re passing on to you ideas they either don’t understand and/or don’t believe.

We’ve no room for unbelief or lies being promoted by teachers who will not or cannot walk in His Truth.

How so?


Positional truth posers play games with scripture, but don’t obey it.

After all, isn’t everything He gained through the cross positional truth?

Of course it is.

But positional truth hawkers selectively label some verses as positional.

Why should His truth be polluted by someone who doesn’t believe Him?

Don’t listen to them.

Reject them.


Maybe to some it’s sounded intellectual to hear a passage labeled as positional truth – something true some day in a distant heaven, but not here on earth where we really need it.

Take this example:

“And they who belong to Christ have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.” Galatians 5:24

“That’s positional.” the pastor told me.

Why will he say this? Because this is a hard-hitting verse – it’s referring to your sinful nature being dead through crucifixion with Christ.

Why is it referring to the sinful nature? Because flesh is from the Greek sarx [flesh/body, or sinful nature]. Since it’s not talking about the physical body, it’s obviously talking about the sinful nature which has the passions and desires.

Nor does this verse say will crucify, as if it were for some future time, heaven or otherwise, so the false teacher cannot declare it’s positionally true only in heaven.

Nope, it was already done by Christ, and the false teacher can do nothing about His truth, other than lie and obfuscate about it.

No, this is past tense: it was already done by Christ, and by belonging to Him, you can walk in it now!


Positional truthers hinder those trying to enter into His promised and delivered freedom.

They not only commit the sin of unbelief, but they call God a liar, declaring He did not do what He claimed as finished.

Instead of assuming that they’re the ones who are in error, positional-truthers seat themselves as authorities over Him. “God through Paul is mistaken. You’re not free. The old self is not dead. God is wrong. God lied to you. Come listen to us, for we’re God.”

Yank the chain when some teacher pulls this nonsense.

“Isn’t all truth positional in Him?”

Well, ah, yes.

“Is there anything in this verse that says it’s only for a future time?”

Well, ah no.

“Why are you talking down to God, calling Him a liar and being The Mistaken One, when it’s you?”

Hopefully, at this point they’ll  shut their mouths in shame.


Never listen to positional truthers who deny His truth.

Tear down their false altars instead and cast them out.


See Also: Reckon Yourselves Dead



Critical Thinking Lacking


There’s a fairy tale world that many put their faith in.

Somebody else will pay your bills.

Your healthcare – Medicare for all.

Your college education.

A guaranteed income.

“We’ll read the bill after we pass it.”

Such political promoters of never-never-land should never be leaders – maybe comedians, for what they spout is hilarious.

How many more times do you think you’ll hear this gaggle?


But don’t take them seriously, or they’ll ultimately destroy everything they touch.

Countries are already bankrupt.

Never vote for them.

Not if you have a brain.

Not if you can critically think.

Nor should you vote for someone based on color or gender.

For it’s non-thinking nincompoops who ruin our countries.

Yet there are whole cadres of politicians who consider you stupider than they are.

Don’t prove them right.


So why should anybody foot your bills?

Are you disabled?

There are already programs that help you, and we can help individually anytime we choose.

But are you lazy? Irresponsible?

Then you’ve earned corporal punishment, not pats on your back and participation trophies.

Everybody’s got a behind, but that doesn’t mean you should sit on it.

Get a job.

Pay your own way.



But wait, just when you thought stupidity might end, there’s a new form of idiocy.

Have citizens vote on untenable proposals.

Proposals that will bust budgets.

Something that cannot be afforded.

“But shouldn’t such and so get so and so? It’s just fair, right?

“Promise them the moon!” even if there’s no money to pay for it.

Money doesn’t grow on trees, except in fairy tale worlds of what people want to hear.

These are only lies and deceptions.

The question should always be, “What are the ultimate costs to my country, state, county, city, and me?”

The question should always be, “How can we get the biggest bang for the buck with what’s available, reasonable and sustainable?”

Somebody wants to tax you 70%. That’s what a socialist world dictates.

Somebody wants to force all fossil fuels out of existence in 10 years.

Want to foot that bill?

Ridiculousness rules in some la-la land non-reality.

Come, let us sing together, “la-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la …..”


Someday, some self-entitler is going to approach you and say, “You owe me.”

But why is it only one way? Why is he entitled to take from you? Why not take the shirt off his own back and give it to a needier person or you. He gives what he has, not demands to take something that doesn’t belong to him.

Governments don’t make money – they tax money earned by people who run businesses and do the jobs.

You can work if someone offers you a job or you can perform a service that someone wants.

But you have no right to take what someone else has worked for.

That’s robbery.

That’s criminal.


Since stupidity ultimately ends in pain, increasing pain in our countries are signs of underlying and increasing stupidity.

Vote out the advocates of stupidity who slump into foolishness.


Be a contributor, not a demand-er that everyone ultimately hates.


“(10) For even when we were with you, we commanded you this, that if any would not work, neither should he eat. (11) For we hear that there are some who walk disorderly among you, not working at all, but are busybodies. (12) Now them who are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that they work quietly, and eat their own bread. (13) But you, brothers, do not be weary in doing well. (14) And if any man does not obey our word by this letter, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed.” 2 Thessalonians 3:10-14